Loving others pratically

I came across this in Peter Scazzero's book, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

Because a preacher that shouts "you need to love others well!" Doesn't really fix the problem. Here is a list of practical ways to love the other in right and healthy way. I think I'll be printing this list and hanging it on the fridge of my apartment. To daily remind me that my roommate and others were fashioned in the image of God and deserves respect, love, and to be engaged with.


Bill of Rights
Respect means I give myself and others the right to:

• Space and privacy (e.g., knocking on doors before entering, not opening another’s mail, respecting each other’s needs for quiet and space);
• Be different (e.g., allowing preferences for food, movies, volume of music, and how spend our time)
• Disagree (e.g., making room for each person to see think and see life differently)
• Be heard (e.g., listening to each other’s desires, opinions, thoughts, feelings, etc.)
• Be taken seriously (e.g., listening and being present to one another)
• Be given the benefit of the doubt (e.g., checking out assumptions rather than judging one another when misunderstandings arise)
• Be told the truth (e.g., counting on the truth when asking each other for information – from “Did you study for the test you failed?” To “Why were you late coming home?”
• Be consulted (e.g., checking and asking when decisions will affect each other)
• Be imperfect and make mistakes (e.g., leaving “room” for breaking things, forgetting things, letting each other down unintentionally, failing tests when we have studied, etc)
• Courteous and honorable treatment (e.g., using words that don’t hurt, asking before using, respecting the other as a “you” and not a “it”)
• Be respected (e.g., taking one another’s feelings into account)